Old? Who is old?
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Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter. Mark Twain
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Old? Who is old?
OCD- Where’s that tiny, winy, little crumb?
OCD- Where’s that tiny, winy, little crumb?
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He looked under the table
He moved the chair
He scanned the floor
left and right.
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Ah, here it is
as he picked up
a small piece of crumb;
a tiny, winy little piece,
how satisfied he was!
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That was one
of his OCD behaviours!
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I have got this obsessive compulsive disorder where I have to have everything in a straight line, or everything has to be in pairs.
David Beckham
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I’m a hygiene freak. I’m like obsessive-compulsive when it comes to washing your hands.
Kelly Clarkson
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Assertiveness, a skill to learn.
Assertiveness, a skill to learn.
I sat behind the class to listen to a class on cognitive behavioral therapy. My son was in the front row. The class was for parents as well as patients with mental disorders. The topic was on assertiveness.
Assertiveness is adopting a firm position in a disagreement without compromise. Assertiveness is not aggressiveness. I learned to respect him when he said no to something we were negotiating whether to do or not. It pleased me that he knew his limit on a certain issue. He had to learn how to manage daily happenings in order not to get upset emotionally.
Many things in life are beyond our control. We have control only over oneself. We can also choose to assert our stand, or ignore if it is none of our business!
It is a skill that can be learned and applied.
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- “The duty we owe ourselves is greater than that we owe others.” ― Louisa May Alcott
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Tenacity: the little ‘mountains’ kids have to climb
Tenacity: the little ‘mountains’ kids have to climb
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A video had been forwarded
many times over the social media.
I can’t help but to admire
the tenacity of this kid!
Look how he grips
the linen with his chubby hands!
See how his face presses onto
the soft cushion with tenacious determination!
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Each time he pulls himself up
his foot grapples clingingly
onto his ‘huge opponent’, the mattress,
as if, in wrestling, with such strength of will,
a will bigger than himself
with persistent perseverance
that would put shame to some adults!
Ouch! He is falling!
Landing on his butts, head lifted up in reflex
and he picks himself up again!
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Yes, he is halfway up on the bed now!
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Oh, no, he is falling again!
On that long thick mattress
placed next to the sofa-bed!
He re-bounces, turns back immediately,
…with a fixity of purpose, that is, to climb up that bed!
And hurray! He is finally up and crawling on the bed!
Triumph flashes on his face!
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Tenacity means never to have
words like ‘failure’ and ‘giving up’!
Many of our kids have been through
those little ‘huge’ challenges
those little ‘mountains’ kids have to climb;
rolling-over, learning to stand up,
walking that first step, crawling around.
Each of those are mountain-like tasks
matching those growing-up years.
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They were just the beginnings.
The beginning in preparing them
and their mind-set for bigger goals in life!
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Quotes
- Let me tell you the secret that has led me to my goal. My strength lies solely in my tenacity. – Louis Pasteur
2. There are times in life when people must know when not to let go. Balloons are designed to teach small children this.”― Terry Pratchett
I only have you in my heart.
I only have you in my heart.
Listen to my solo 我的心里没有他 wo de xin li mei yu da (meaning I only have you in my heart.)
This song reminds us that females can be such petty and jealous species.
I wonder if it applies to men, too!
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“Jealousy is not a barometer by which the depth of love can be read. It merely records the degree of the lover’s insecurity.”
– Margaret Mead
Retirement and reshaping our social fabric?
Retirement and reshaping our social fabric?
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Retirement age is steadily increasing in many countries, where many 60- year- olds are still healthy and productive. When knowledge and experiences are at a peak, wouldn’t it be a waste to put them into cold storage when they can offer real economic advantages? Will that mean fewer opportunities for the younger generations, fresh graduates, and new entrants to the job market? I never use the word “retire” on myself. But if I were to go back to compete in the job market, I would propose a half full-time equivalent (FTE) with a prorated salary. That way, the old people will still have sufficient time to rest and have time for their solitude time and hobbies. The fresh and younger people can be guided by these older mentors and strive forth in the competitive workforce, unhindered.
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Solitude versus loneliness
Solitude versus loneliness
Solitude versus loneliness
"Loneliness expresses the pain of being alone and solitude expresses the glory of being alone," according to Paul Tillich.
Severely disableds ’empowered’ as avatar robots!
Severely disableds ’empowered’ as avatar robots!
This is a smart idea! Empowering bedridden and severely disabled to operate robots, from a distance.
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Tell the universe
Tell the universe
Many people suffer in silence. The excuses are shame, taboos, ‘don’t wash dirty linens in public’, or ‘ you are weak’. And so, they ‘drown’!
Speaking up here refers to talking to someone close to oneself or a counselor. A meditation guru once suggested “meditating and telling the universe”. In peaceful solitude and self-reflection, one may find the answers or solutions.
Reflecting: Que Sera Sera
Reflecting: Que Sera Sera
I met many of my former students on the social media. A lot of reflections in our chats, as we reminisced the past years. I usually have to make the first move to connect to them whenever I see their pictures appearing on my site. Many are mothers of teenaged children!
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“…ah, I remember you. You were so timid those days! Now you are teaching the other nurses! Excellent!’
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“… You own two renal dialysis centers? So enterprising!”
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“.. you are the CEO of a cancer hospital! I remember you used to be one of the top few students most of the time!”
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“you are a full-time house wife and mother? But you used to be very good in your studies!”
“So, how are you? Your kids are so big already! How time flies!”
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After some time on the chat, one of them said, “… remember the songs you used to make us sing to improve our English? The song…
Que Sera Sera, whatever will be, will be…”
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Quote:-
We know what we are, but know not what we may be.- William Shakespeare
Chen Song Ping 