6 Reasons Why People Fish For Compliments (and How to Respond)

Sheri K's avatarAisles of Life

We all love compliments. They make us feel good about ourselves and appreciated for our efforts. Compliments can also improve our motivation and general wellbeing. But what happens when your way of getting people to say nice things about you comes off as fishing for compliments?

Since you are here reading this post, I’m guessing you either fish for compliments or know someone who does it and you are looking for a way to deal with them. But do you understand why people fish for compliments? Do you know how to know when someone is fishing for compliments?What does fishing for compliments even mean?

Fishing for compliments means that you try to make people say nice things about you by pretending to be modest about things to get them to disagree and reassure you by giving you praise. It is similar to the actual act of fishing with a…

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Let’s go home

Let’s go home

Let go home (Photo by Bob Ward on Pexels.com)

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Tired, weary day,

cars inch all the way in jam.

Setting sun watches.

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Let’s go home – is about a tired weary day at office and being caught in a daily three hours traffic jam all the way home, with the beautiful setting sun as consolation!

That was before several highways were built.

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Can’t see through an acrylic panel?

Can’t see through an acrylic panel?

Counter service (Photo by Andrea Piacquadio on Pexels.com)

It was an amusing morning. I sat and watched the frontliners serving clients over the counter.

There were transparent acrylic panels in front of each staff. But, the clients have the tendency to move their heads to the side of the panel to talk to the staff!

An acrylic panel

Psychologically, it was like “I can’t see you!” or ” I can’t hear you!” through these panel! Luckily they were all wearing masks!

Frontliners at busy counters are like sitting ducks to potential virus carriers!

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Silence

Silence by Jeff Flesch.

Jeff Flesch's avatarDevelop. Inspire. Transform.

Photo by Evgeni Tcherkasski on Unsplash

An
Empty space
Full of grace, and

Solitude

Created
For the multitudes

Of humanity

We each share
In this blessing
Which awaits

A discovery

Upon the recovery
Of our true

Nature

Which is
Quite compelling,
And, yes, often telling

A thing forgotten,
Yet not begotten, no

Rather, a reservoir
Full of light, and
Always delight

So, friend

When it’s time
Look inside
And you will find

A space
Already created
Awaiting your return

So take the turn, and
Reclaim the truth
Of your birth

Silence

Empty while full
Ever so subtle, and
Also quite grand

A paradox, yes
Quiet and also
Powerful, and

Oh so very flowerful

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One week post-op!

One week post-op! by Glitteryguts

Found this old blog post just one week after receiving my stoma in 2015! I thought it would be great to get it published for any new or upcoming ostomates can have a read!  So as all of you are aware, I received surgery a week ago and now have a permanent stoma (ileostomy.) I […]

Chen SP: Healthcare staff and ostomates especially, should read about her experience one week after her ileostomy surgery. Please read on at

One week post-op! by Glitteryguts

Crying tears of joys or pain?

Crying tears of joys or pain?

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“Are you laughing or crying?”

“I don’t know. It must be tears of joy!”

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Imagine going through labour pain…

Can pain be funny?

Childbirth (Photo by Jonathan Borba on Pexels.com)

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The two things in the world

we all share in this world

are laughter and pain.

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We’ve all got problems.

The levels of those problems vary,

but we’ve all got problems.

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When you can take things that are

painful and make them funny,

that’s a gift –

to you and your audience.

– Kevin Hart

One, Two Buckle My Shoes!

One, Two Buckle My Shoes! (Poem, a tercet)

crop kid tying shoelaces on sneakers

One, Two Buckle My Shoes! (Photo by Allan Mas on Pexels.com)
One, two, buckle my shoes 
the day has yet to come through 
a second more, let me snooze! 

Three, four, open the door 
slumped with backpack on the floor 
legs out-stretched to the fore 

Five, six, pick up stick 
left, right, which is which? 
putting them on without a hitch 

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At what age, do most kids learn to tie their own shoelaces? 

My kids made it at about six to eight years of age.

Velco shoes were an easy alternative!

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The sixth sense of a mother towards a newborn in need.

The sixth sense of a mother towards a newborn in need.

A mother has sixth sense to a child’s cries? (Photo by Sarah Chai on Pexels.com)

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The hall was full

of chatters and laughters.

“Shhh…shhh!”

” What.. what happens?”

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They watched the new mother

walked slowly up the stairs,

with index finger on her lip.

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Next, she ran up quickly!

She opened the bedroom door.

Her pint-sized darling newborn,

was screaming his lungs out!

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Was it the high-pitched squeals

or her increased sensitivity to sound?

How many decibels

can a newborn’s cries hit?

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“You had to kill this child, I know”

I like this, “…This is the age you are broken or turned into gold.”

nonsmokingladybug's avatarThe happy Quitter!

I start writing a comment, and what was supposed to be just a simple reply, started to get a life of its own and it got longer and longer -to the point that I was writing a blog post. The old saying

GETTING OLD IS MANDATORY, GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL

brought back memories and so it began. My fingers connected with my brain, and the thoughts started flowing right into the keyboard. The COMMENT got longer and more personal.

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Marriage: For better or for worse

Marriage: For better or for worse

This picture is a reminder about the wow married couples make during their D-day!

How fragile can a marriage be?

An educational psychologist illustrated the second quote below that how one squeezes a toothpaste tube (in the middle) became the triggering point for a divorce!

crop unrecognizable woman squashing plastic bottle
Squeezing the anger … (Photo by Anna Shvets on Pexels.com)

Quote:-

  1. Dave Meurer: “A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
  2. Don’t hang on to small annoyances. So many marriages have slowly deteriorated over the smallest, silliest things. Lisa Jacobson