A courier counter service experience for a disabled…

Courier service

A courier counter service experience for a disabled…

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Last week, a man went to post three A4 brown envelopes with 3 different addresses at a courier service centre.

He came back to the car where his elderly mother was waiting. He showed one invoice (proof of receipt).

The mother went to the counter… and asked.. Why 3 envelopes but only one invoice.

The counter lady raised her voice.. ” I asked him many times if he wants to put them together. And he said yes.

She went on repeating..as if to justify her actions to the other three customers in front of the counter.

The mother intercepted her, “hello, hello,… he is disabled!)

“Saya mahu dia belajar berkomunikasi … nampaknyI want him to learn to communicate… look like he has failed! But I am proud that he entered here just now.)

The lady soften her voice, “ya la…ini maksudnya dia berani mahu masuk sini. Saya pun tak tahu dia OKU.” (Yes, indeed, it means he was brave enough to enter here. I didn’t know he was disabled.)

“Nanti saya akan terangkan kepada anak saya.” ( Later, I will explain to my son.)


The counter lady put the 3 envelopes into 3 separate plastic envelopes…and gave the mother 3 invoices ( proof of receipt).


It was a learning experience for the mother.. and hopefully the courier service counter lady learned something, too.

Real flowers, real love?

Real flowers, real love?

Real flowers, plastic flowers…

“Happy birthday!

Here’s a cemented pot

of flowers for you!

It will last forever…

like my love for you…

forever! “

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“You… you give me

… plastic flowers?”

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“I went through the flowers shop.

Real flowers don’t last long!

And it is a waste of money.”

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That pot of flowers

disappeared soon after.

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Real flowers, real love?

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Noble silence at a meditation retreat!

Beautiful nature (Photo by Arnie Chou on Pexels.com)

Noble silence at a meditation retreat!

Noble silence! That was the essence of the meditation retreat.

The newbies were rather excited and chatty. However, the seniors seemed to know the rules of the ten-day noble silence sanctuary. The centre is like an oasis in the middle of a forest. They kept our mobiles, notebooks and pens. It was absolutely solitude!

“Where is your room? Let us go to the dining hall together after unpacking.” The twelve-day vegetarian menu was so simple, yet, delicious. I should come back as a helper in the kitchen next time! (Which I did, cooking for hundred-over people!)

At the dining table, we learned that silence means no talking verbally, as well as non-verbally! No eye contact nor gesture is allowed. Everybody was in a mind your own business mode! On the way back to our individual rooms, [low voice], “oh, in case I don’t hear the gong at four am, please knock at my door!” The course manager glanced disapprovingly at us.

Soon, the orchestra of croaky frogs and tadpoles began. It became part of the otherwise tranquil nights. I hid an insect repellant, a few packs of biscuits, and some masking tapes. The latter was to cover any holes on the window nettings, which I read about online.

The classes started at four o’clock in the morning and ended at about ten at night. The assistant teacher of S.N. Goenka gave some instructions and teachings on the Vipassana technique. During meditation, the huge hall was in pin-drop silence.

We had to listen to our breaths as the air entered and left our nostrils as in normal respiration. Fleeting memories of the past and worrying concerns of the future flitted in and out of my mind. Very often, I had to recall myself to the present moments.

This task of breathing in and out was hard work, indeed! The meditation’s goal is to purify the mind completely of emotions like anger, hatred, sadness or fear with the help of natural respiration.
There were, in fact, a lot of reflections going on in our minds the next few days. By the third to fifth day, several ladies were releasing their emotional ‘taps’ silently. A few men on the other side of the hall were seen sniffing too.

One day, after a lunch break, I saw a lady sitting under a huge tree, all alone, crying. So I told the course manager about my concern for her. She took that lady to see the assistant teacher.

In this practice of noble silence, there was no one to listen to, as everybody was not talking. We were actually listening to our own little self-talks; self-reflection during our mindful meditation.

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Quote:
1. “In solitude, I find my answers.” Kristen Butler
2. “Without great solitude, no serious work is possible.” Pablo Picasso

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Watching the school children passing by…

Watching the school children passing by…

School has started again!

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Patiently, cars lined up

a kid or two per car

stopping briefly

near the entrance to school

occasional buses, too.

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Some kids masked,

hand in hand

their mum’s held on protectively

guiding their child

across the road…

And one crying child, reluctantly,

being dragged by his dad,

but to no avail as he wailed…

as if unwilling to enter …

an invisible war zone!

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Evening walk: Raining flowers

Evening walk: Raining flowers

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Spiralling rain of

Tecoma flowers from trees

purplish carpet formed.

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This Haiku tells of the pleasant experience during an evening walk. It is walking through the rain of spiraling Tecoma flowers. They form a bed of flowers on the ground.

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Mesmerizing Saturday- it’s hard to imagine a blue sunset!

Mesmerizing Saturday- it’s hard to imagine a blue sunset!

Toh HL explains why sunsets and sunrises are red and not blue!

So round, spectacular, and mesmerizing
sometimes, shy, bashful behind the clouds
often ordinary, the reddish blaze disappearing
as if in a hurry for another appointment?

Rayleigh scattering is the phenomenon
for during sunsets or sunrises,
sunlight has to penetrate a thicker layer
of dust and water vapour in the atmosphere.

The red end of the colour spectrum
is scattered less compared to the blue end
Hence, red reaches our eyes easily
as it has a shorter wavelength than blue

It's hard to imagine a blue sunset!

by Toh HL, co-author and photographer, 21 May 2021

‘God gives and God takes…’

‘God gives and God takes…’

Praying to God (Photo by MART PRODUCTION on Pexels.com)

I did a few surveys with cancer patients many years ago, about life with cancer… patients from private as well as public hospitals.

I remember this philosophical view from a Muslim woman with breast cancer.

“Doctor told me I came in late for treatment. He gave me the most,… two years. But I believe that God is the one who gives us life, God only will decide when to take me…”

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Pressure rising, a wake-up call and my three angels

Pressure rising, a wake-up call and my three angels

If there is a post I MUST write in this life-time for many managers out there, this is the one.

My secretary held her phone away from her ear. Manager X was screaming at her. I went to his department to talk to him. He had a history of hypertension on medications. The consequences could have been worse than what happened to a young me as I narrated it to him.

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Three timid-looking students came to me.
“Can we practice taking vital signs on you?”
“Yes, of course!”
Just then, another two students stood in front
to report that they were not ready to present a role-play
which was assigned the day before.
I felt my face getting warmer, and
my pressure rising…
“When I come up to class, you shall present!


They ran up to prepare. (The whole night, they couldn’t think of

how to do the skit. Ironically, in 30 minutes they could!)

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“Alright, come, girls!”

I rolled up my sleeve for the girls in waiting.

The first girl took my blood pressure twice.

She whispered to her colleagues.

The other two took turns to take my blood pressure.

“It’s 190/120mmHg!”

“Are you sure? My normal readings are around 110/60mmHg!”

I took over the stethoscope, “OK, pump!”

Looking worried now… they were right.

(Both my mother and my maternal grandmother

had hypertension and a stroke!)

It was a wake-up call for me. A turning point!

A few months later, a colleague lecturer commented,

“I notice nowadays you are very calm. I seldom see you getting angry!

You are like a 360-degree change!”

Three decades on, my blood pressure is still within a normal range.

Thanks to those three angels!

Whenever I meet someone losing his or her ‘cool’,

I will tell him that the one (s) he is angry at,

will not come to change his pampers or feed him

if he collapses with a stroke or heart attack!

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Quote;

A lot of people in my family have high blood pressure. Dre told me I better start hitting the gym…so I took his advice.   – Warren G.

Reaction about pressure: The harder one throws a ball, the harder it will bounce back.’. – Chen S.P.

Fascinating Saturday in the village

Fascinating Saturday in the village (a senyru)

woman in white t shirt holding brown and white bird
Urban kids saw fowls (Photo by cottonbro on Pexels.com)

Urban kids saw fowls
Fascinating excitement!
‘Mum, chicken, chicken’!

They ran after them
sending furious wings flappings
in all directions

For kids who grow up in the cities and high-rise buildings, this is a sight to behold! Not at the birds, but the excited kids!